Start your Day with a cup of self love. Commit to doing something loving for yourself (big or small) for the next 14 days!
February is the month to share love. Why not start with self love. Most people would never treat others the way they often treat themselves. Negative self talk can be as destructive or worse than when it comes from someone else. It is demeaning, lowers your self-esteem and can hinder your ability to motivate and engage in activities that bring you joy and success – including social, physical and work activities.
No matter how many people may have made you feel like you don’t deserve to love yourself (including you) it’s never too late to start! An excellent way to begin to love yourself is to do something loving for you. When you treat yourself with kindness, it makes you feel good. The more you feel good, the more you want to treat yourself with kindness. Each loving act, however big or small, is a brick in the foundation of self love.
Feel confused or lost on where to start with your own self-love relationship? Here are some ideas to help you get started.
1. Begin each day by loving you.
What do you do when you first get up? Get online to see what everyone else is doing? Immediately start attending to other’s needs? What if you start tomorrow differently? Take five minutes to relax and visualize yourself enveloped in love. Think of the things you are grateful for in yourself and in your life. Allow yourself time to listen to your inner voice and become who you really are.
2. Buy a self-love ring or bracelet.
Buy yourself a self-love ring or bracelet to remind yourself to have loving thoughts toward yourself. If you catch yourself having negative thoughts about yourself, move the piece of jewelry to your other wrist or finger. After a while, you will catch yourself immediately when you start to have those defeating thoughts. When you catch yourself having negative thoughts, immediately follow up with a positive affirmation about yourself such as, “I deserve all that is good. I am worthy.”
3. Try something new.
Somewhere along the line many of us got the idea that we need to be good at everything we do. This mindset forces us to avoid activities, that while we may not be good at, we may still enjoy. Pick your activities because they bring you joy! Learning to accept yourself even though you aren’t good at something is a great way to practice self-love. Realize that you don’t have to do things perfectly to enjoy them and learn to laugh at yourself in the process!
4. Forgive yourself.
Understand that making mistakes are what being alive is all about. We are all learning, all the time, every day. ‘Mistakes’ are opportunities to learn. That is all. Beating yourself up about something that goes wrong for hours/days/months on end is torturous, pointless and harmful. Next time you make a mistake, exhibit self love by saying to yourself, “I made a mistake. What did I learn? Great; I can now move on to the next thing. I am human!”
5. Encourage yourself.
Learn how to encourage yourself when you have done something well. Stop for a moment and internally praise yourself, “Well done.” Appreciate yourself for all you accomplish – both the big and little things. Speaking words of affirmation are a positive and effective way to encourage yourself and practice self love.
6. No more comparisons.
Comparison is the thief of joy. We have all done it… compared our lives, clothes, car, house, family, school, or job to others. We could be perfectly content with our life one moment, and fall into despair the next when we realize our neighbor has “one-upped” us. Being in a pattern of compare and despair only makes you focus on the negative, when there's SO much to be grateful for. Learn to practice gratitude on a daily basis to increase self love and leave your need to compare a thing of the past.
7. Explore your spirituality.
Faith is the foundation for self-love, no matter what you believe. Believing in something opens up your soul to the beauty of belief and trust. When you explore your spirituality it will also take you on a journey to learning things about yourself and those new thoughts, feelings, passions, and raw emotions will make you appreciate yourself for being authentically you.
8. Learn to let go
Holding on to past hurts can weigh heavy on your heart and lead to low self-esteem. Stop reliving past hurts by replaying the details of the story in your head. You can’t undo the past, all you can do is to make today the best day of your life. Focus on the present – the here and now. Know that letting go is self love in action and will contribute exponentially to the joy and happiness you feel today and every day moving forward.
Ultimately, you need to believe you are worthy of love and being loved! Commit to building self love by taking the 14 Days of Self Love Challenge. For the next 14 days, do at least one thing to show yourself love and kindness!
“I commit to do my best to do something loving for myself, however big or small, for the next 14 days.”
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1) Copy the pledge.
2) Paste it into the comments section below and post!
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